Week 5 Blog Assignment Zina Tillman

When you are experiencing isms in your life you often react to others in ways that are not always positive. I think for me since I have faced lots of racism in my life it could potentially be difficult for me to deal with certain families that I know have made racists remarks. I think I would be professional and try to help the family but I think for me I would still be judging them and being very cautious of my interactions with them.

Another issues that I have dealt with is ableism. I have seen this very often with children with disabilities and me thinking their child could do one thing and the family believing another. I think as a teacher I tend to sometimes push the children farther than the parents think I should which can cause disagreements and I have seen parents be very reluctant to work with me since I wanted them to treat their child as “normal” as possible. I think isms lead to uncomfortable relationships and can cause problems for building positive working relationships.

Week 3 Blog Assignment Zina Tillman

I was able to take some time observing children at the play area inside our local mall. There was about three children playing and they were aged range approximately 3 to 5. The children seemed to each play on the jump on equipment in their own way and there was not much interaction between each of the children. The youngest child kept interacting with the mother since the mother was standing there being protective and making sure she was following around her child. The other parents seemed to be more relaxed and just sat on the edge and watched the children play. The one mom appeared to be talking on the phone part of the time during the observation.

The interacting as far as communication appeared to be effective. The mom that was talking to the child seemed to be communicating with her child and there was constant interaction. The parent kept making sure the child was being careful and was very firm in reminding the child of what not to do. The other communication I saw was when the one parent was ready to leave. The mom called the child’s name and was like we really should be going now, mommy has to get home. This was said two or three times before the child even went over to the mom. Her communication was not very effective and she should have just stated it is time to go in order for the child to understand exactly what was being expected of them.

The first parent and child interaction I think did not help the child’s self worth at all since the parent kept reminding the child of what not to do. It was almost as if the parent didn’t want the child to do things because she was scared. This could make the child very timid to try things in the future.  I think the best thing I can take from this observation is the fact that I need to be very conscious of what I am saying when the children are trying new things in order to not deter them of this in the future.

Week 2 Blog Assignment Zina

If I was going to open a family child care in my own I would set up an area and make sure I had areas suitable for younger children, an area for infants, and finally a pre-school that would be similar to what you would see in a school system. In order to make the families feel welcome and make sure their needs are being met I think providing pictures of the families is a great thing to have. I also think lots of posters and visuals about diversity would be a great thing to have. I would make sure to have dolls and other toys that provide a wide range of diversity (Derman-Sparks, 2010).  I would also make sure to talk with the parents about the holidays they celebrate and make sure to have activities within my setting for all of the holidays that the children celebrate. Finally the most important way to make my families feel comfortable is to collaborate with them as much as possible and make sure I am showing their family traditions and making sure their culture is represented within my classroom.

What I have Learned

I hope that in the future when working with children and families that are from diverse backgrounds is that they will trust me and let me get to know them and allow me to learn from them and their culture. I hope that they will not only respect me and my culture but that I can learn theirs as well.

One goal that I have for the early childhood field is that we continue to inform children of the diverse world that we live in and allow them to embrace other cultures to try to eliminate some of the biases we have in our world today. The more we educate our children and teach them about differences the better chance they have at understanding and supporting diversity.

This class has taught me a great deal about myself and I have enjoyed learning from my classmates as well. I thank everyone for their knowledge and opinions throughout the course and helping me think deeper into many of the responses that I have had.

Creating Art

This class allowed me to reflex on my family, look at diversity within the classroom and as well as diversity among families.

We Don't Say Those Words

I will never forget when I was working in a special education classroom as a paraprofessional and we had just gotten a new student. The student had only been in our classroom about two days and he was a student with Autism. I was at a table working with some of the children and the teacher was working one on one with a student and the principal came into our classroom with some visitors from our district office. If any of you know much about children with Autism they often speak their minds and don’t consider others feelings before speaking. The principal and the lady from the district walked over to the teacher and the student and said something. No sooner than they had stepped away the student looked at the teacher and said “Why are that ladies teeth so big?” The teacher told the little boy to be quite. No sooner than she had said that the student got up and went over to the lady and asked the same question. The then told him “that was unacceptable go sit down.” Later, the principal came back and tried to reprimand not only the student again but the teacher for the child’s behavior and what he had said. The teacher had to get the principal to understand that the student did not realize what he was saying was in appropriate and reprimanding him for such behavior might cause the student not to communicate with others as well. 

When children say inappropriate things I think it is important to have a conversation with them about how certain things could hurt people’s feelings and better ways to say it. However, I don’t think that a student should be silenced for what they are saying because it could cause the child to be more shy and not really speak at all. I think the best way to approach the situation that my teacher was in was to tell the boy to apologize to the lady for interrupting her conversation with the principal, the teacher then should explain to the student that all people are different and that not everyone looks the same. She should have also told him that is it okay to ask questions about why others are different but you have to do it in a polite manner. Parents and Adults need to be role models for children because they often mimic what they are saying. This is why in our society today some children are very polite and others are not it is all what is expected of them and what they are exposed to in their life. It is important as adults that we should not silence children for talking but show them other ways of saying things and asking questions in an appropriate manner.

Start Seeing Diversity

I could see why many childhood education centers would want to avoid including books about gay and lesbian individuals. This is a very touchy subject for many people in the United States and they want to have the opportunity to take to their own kids and share there beliefs with them. However, I feel it is very important to expose children to many things and allow them to make opinions for themselves. I think especially if you have children inside your classroom that would have parents of the same sex it would be even more important to have these books. If the children are around other children and see these families they often have many questions which books could help give more unbiased answers than by them speaking to a person.

I think the term that I hear the most often when around children is when they say gay. I hate it when children use the term “that’s gay.” They are using it in the context of meaning stupid but it is not a word that should be used. I also think that in sports you often here children refer to each other and say don’t be a sissy especially in sports like football. I think it is important that adults make sure that they stop children from saying these things because it could offend someone. There are many children in our society today that are growing up with parents of the same sex so it is important to not make them feel uncomfortable.